Before HBS: Management
consultant at Monitor Group (Boston)
Hometown: Schenectady,
New York
Career Aspirations:
Providing strategic advisory to corporations and governments,
particularly to support the economic development of cities and regions
Interests: Government /
Politics, Music, Pop Culture, Socializing, Travel, Writing
How did you consider
different schools?
For me, fit was critical. I was going to be in business school for two
years, and I knew it would be an immersion experience, so I had to feel
comfortable with the community. Some schools felt more right than
others in terms of their culture, and that was as much a factor as
teaching style, academic focus, and rankings.
More specifically, I needed to attend a school that embraced its LGBT
students—not a school that just accepted the presence of LGBT students,
but a school where those students were truly valued as integral to the
community. Both the administration and the student body at HBS made an
effort to show that.
To any prospective LBGT business school student, I encourage you to do
your homework, and do it thoroughly. Talk to people at the
schools—listen their stories, get their impressions, and really imagine
what it would be like to be there for a few years. And of course, visit
the schools and connect with the LGBT clubs to get insight into the
campus. If there are events such as HBS’s LGBT open house events for
prospective students (held each year), go to them. Schools like HBS
want you, so why not take advantage of the events and opportunities
they offer?
On pre-conceived notions of
HBS
Okay, I’ll admit it: I had some concerns that Harvard, and specifically
HBS, would be stuffy and close-minded. I even heard murmurs from some
people that HBS may not be right for me. Well, those concerns were
unfounded, and the school did an excellent job at disproving those
concerns quickly. The HBS community is extremely welcoming, not just to
LGBT students but to every student from every background.
My preconceived notions of HBS were shattered during Admitted Students
weekend. The school hosted a great LGBT dinner event for interested
students, and it was a great opportunity to meet the “club” at HBS and
other prospective students. Considering that almost every prospective
student at the dinner joined me at HBS in the fall, I’d say the LGBT
network was impressive to everyone, not just me. That weekend was a
great opportunity, and I highly encourage it for any accepted LGBT
student.
I have found HBS to be a thriving, progressive, and exciting place to
be. I learned that my own first-hand experiences and exploration of the
school were so much more valuable than my speculation and anecdotes
from third parties. HBS’s reputation for rigorous academics and an
exciting community is well-deserved, but my preconceived notions about
the culture of the place were all wrong.
What has been your
experience at HBS being out?
For the first few days, going back to graduate school is a bit like
returning to college: Where do I sit in the dining hall? Who is in my
classes? Where do I hang out tonight? And for many LGBT students, there
is the one million dollar question: Do I tell people I am
gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgender?
I chose to be completely out with my fellow students, and I have had a
great time with it. I helped with National Coming Out Day events in
October. I talked to my classmates about LGBT experiences, both at
formal occasions and in casual conversations. I have not encountered a
single person that has reacted poorly to my sexuality. Even if people
have a different perspective than me, everyone at HBS values diversity
and wants to learn from different people. I feel equally comfortable
hanging out with my straight friends at school as I do with my LGBT
friends, and I think that’s great.
Many of my straight friends (some of whom have never known an openly
gay person before) love to talk about what is like to be gay at HBS, in
business, or just in general—so much so that at times often I am the
one who wants finally to change the subject. And when I do find myself
in the occasional awkward situation (and it would be silly to assume
there would never be any), it is usually because someone is not aware
of the effect of their words or actions. When this happens, I politely
point out my perspective. In every single situation the individuals
have been not only apologetic but also eager to learn more to ensure
they do not make the same mistake again.
I also know that if I were ever to face discrimination, there are
significant support systems in place around the school. LGBT faculty
and staff are always willing to talk. The Leadership and Values
Initiative at HBS creates
another network of support enacting many policies to protect the rights
of minorities and all students. Fellow students take mutual respect and
personal responsibility very seriously, and they speak up against
bigotry.
In the end, how ‘out’ to be is a unique choice for each person, but I
highly encourage those applying and those attending HBS to be out and
confident in that decision. It feels great to be honest, and it helps
educate the larger community. At HBS, few things are valued as much as
mutual learning.